Last Minute Tips for New Year's Eve

Many of you probably can't resist the urge to go out tonight, and indeed, new year's eve is quite possibly the easiest day to get laid in the entire year (the few days before Valentine's Day are normally very good, too, but those girls are often hell-bent to have a "boyfriend" for Valentine's so that they don't feel sorry about themselves. In the US, Halloween is also great, but it's less so in Europe.) 

Probably a lot of you are going to go out tonight, and if you want to maximize your chances to get laid, then follow these quick tips:

- Show up early. On New Year's Eve clubs are generally extremely busy, and you surely don't want to spend two hours waiting in the queue. Be there at 10 p.m. at the latest, and if your friends think it's too early, then ask them whether they want to get laid or not.

- Don't drink, or at least restrain yourself. Pretty much everybody else is going to get wasted. There will be so many opportunities for you that you should be on top of things all the time. You surely don't want all those girls walking off to some other guy just because you couldn't find the keys to your car (not that you should drink and drive anyway).

- Strike early. The further the night goes on, the more depressing it usually gets. In your typical club or bar on New Year's Eve, you can regularly see people falling asleep on a sofa or on the counter. Sadly, this also happens in more exclusive venues. Thus, try to seal the deal by 1 a.m. at the latest. If she seems interested, then try to leave with her right away. She'll probably never be as willing as on this night during the entire year. Also, you'll notice that the atmosphere can quickly go downhill afterwards. On NYE, club nights are normally not particularly great (because everyone wants to go out), and they all degenerate into sausage fests.

- Forget about phone numbers. New Year's Eve is a typical "doesn't count" day, so forget about collecting numbers and meeting her during the week. She'll probably have a really hard time remembering you when you call her the next day anyway.

- Play high risk, high reward. Shortly before the countdown to midnight starts, have a look around and try to find the hot girls. As soon as it's midnight, they'll all do their "happy new year!" act, squeal and hug their friends. It's all chaotic, so just walk up, open your arms for a hug and say "happy new year!", and then make out with her. See if you can segue this into getting her away from her friends and leaving with her. Don't push it too hard if there is resistance. Instead, walk off to the next girl. Those five to ten minutes are the easiest five to ten minutes of the entire year to get laid. Really.

- Capitalize on your Opportunities! On New Year's Eve, many girls desperately want to get laid, and many will be very outgoing. Remember, it "doesn't count", and they can get away with getting really drunk because all their friends are doing it, too. If a girl comes up to you to wish you a happy new year (she's probably playing the same gambit as the one I previously mentioned), decide very quickly whether you want to have sex with her or not. If so, hug her, and try to kiss her. This often leads to a wild makeout. Break the makeout after a few second and say to the girl, "Let's go!", and leave with her. Yes, it can really happen that quickly! Her friends most likely forget about cockblocking as well, and may say things like, "Have fun with him, sweetie!", or "Good job!", or they may clap, high five her, or give her thumbs up. (Caveat: Trying to leave before midnight is a very bad idea, but once it's past 0:00 a.m., it's fine.)


New Years Eve can be quite ridiculous, so make it count!

Happy new year! I hope that you are all going to have a lot of sex in 2012.

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About Models and "Models"

In a discussion of "Krauser PUA", neparlepas from my forum posted a screenshot from a video that guy posted, in which he claimed to "pick up" (getting a flaky phone number?) two Estonian "models." I've discussed "Krauser PUA" before, and I've thoroughly rebuked him on my forum, when he wanted to get kudos for banging a girl exactly once after investing a serious amount of time and money. Here's my money quote:

I have just skimmed your report of the pick-up, and I wasn't surprised that it took you quite a long time to actually bang her. You mentioned five dates with nothing happening except some finger-banging, and that you meet up with her in Turkey after a few months, while having Skype contact from December to March. And in the end you only fuck her once.

Doesn't this strike you as slightly uneconomical?

Krauser PUA didn't show his face on my forum ever again afterwards. He's probably too busy picking up "models" in former communist countries. But what's wrong with picking up "models" you may now ask? Well, here's a picture of one of the "models" Krauser PUA boasts having picked up on YouTube:

As you can readily see, the issue is simply that the label "model" is used in such an inflationary fashion that it makes Rudolf Havenstein look like a choir boy. Neparlepas analyzed it this way:

If the two girls on the Youtube video are models, then im Brad Pitt. It seems to me that when a self-described PUAs start having a modicum of success with non-fat girls sporting blond hair&blue eyes, the change is so dramatic, they are automatically labeled models. 

Indeed, "PUAs" throwing around the word "models" is nothing new. Part of it is just juvenile boasting, but the label "model" is much more problematic. When a girl tells me she's a model, I usually just laugh. Given that I have never bumped into women like Adriana Lima, I have every right to. If she can actually live off her modeling, then she's a model. If not, then not. On a side note, I can call myself an author because I have written a couple of books, and even though I am not Hemingway, I can at least show those works to people. On the other hand, what does a "model" who gets booked twice a year for two or three years of her life, until she's deemed too old, really achieve besides some ego stroking? I used to do live modeling, but I never defined myself through it, and certainly not the same way some of the "models" in New York or London do. They may do some modeling from time to time, but they certainly aren't models.

I know how to move chess pieces, but would I care calling myself a chess player? Magnus Carlsen surely is in an entire different league, and this would still be true if I had an ELO rating of 2,500. By the same logic some women dare to call themselves "models", and "PUAs" fantasize about "pulling models" (i.e. non-fat girls who don't even call themselves "models"), I could easily construct my live to be one of a superstar. After all, I hang out with "publishers", "models", "singers", "basketball players", "pianists", "painters", and "philosophers" all the time.

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If you are Batting 0.001

Recently, a guy on my forum, Warped Mindless, pointed me towards a post on RSD Nation that made me shake my head in disbelief. It was about some dude celebrating himself for approaching over 1,100 women and getting laid exactly once. He also mentions two blow jobs, but something tells me that this probably wasn't quite the kind performance you witness in your favourite POV porn clips.
Just witness the absurd level of delusion you must have to write something like this:

My 1000th post will be about my background, my journey and about where I am at. Maybe it will inspire some of you guys to take action.

...and this:

Whenever i feel a bit down or frustrated i just remember what Jeffy told me, something along the lines that I am going to be a beast at the age of 25 and that I got the leverage.

Sure, dude, and when I'm forty, I'll have ten billion dollars in the bank.

I don't want to bash this poor dude too much, but seeing that he gets congratulated by a myriad of people who tell him that he is an "inspiration" is beyond belief. If anything, it tells you how little the average guy on RSD Nation actually gets laid. Warped Mindless offered constructive criticism, but was called a "hater" instead.

Frankly, having to approach over a thousand woman only to yield this kind of results is pathetic, and even if your ratio is ten times better (i.e. one in a hundred), it's still phenomenally bad. In this case, I can only advise you to take a break from pickup and focus on literally every other area in your life. If you fare that poorly, then something is seriously wrong about either you or the situations you put yourself in.

Further, it shouldn't take you much to realize that whatever you are doing is completely wrong. Just compare it to any other field. Let's say you've started working out, and after ten months in the gym you still haven't gained a single pound. What do you do then? Do you keep doing what you are doing, or figure that there must be better way (because it can hardly be any worse)?

I don't want to calculate how many hours this guy has "invested" into pickup, but just a small fraction of this spent on working out would have gotten him in much better shape. Further, he seems to view his time as nearly worthless. Let's assume that he spent over 500 hours "in field." Even if he valued his time at a mere $1 an hour, the outcome is ridiculous, and the price he's paying for pussy is laughable.

There is only one solution: Take a break, and get your head straight.

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Guest Post: Introduction of Anthony Myers

As I have recently announced, Anthony Myers from MuscleClass.com will contribute to this blog. In this post, he tells you about his background and gives an overview of his knowledge. In subsequent posts, he'll give you practical advice on improving your health and fitness.

My name is Anthony Myers. I'm a formerly fat, asthmatic, socially awkward, wannabe professional gamer (Yes, seriously.) My former self would rather be alone than risk embarrassing myself by approaching a girl. Aaron has allowed me to be a guest posted on his website so I can share with you my story, and also teach you how I changed myself for the better.

My Story
I spent most of high school sitting in the corner of the classroom, quiet, with my head down. When the teacher called on me to answer a question in class, you could literally hear my voice tremble. I thought everybody in the classroom was looking at me and picking me a part. Looking back on it, they most-likely weren’t. They probably were more like me than I thought, they wanted class to end and to go home just a badly as I did.

In the movies high school is portrayed as the best years of your life. High school is a time when you’re supposed to be partying, going to football games, drinking, hanging out with your friends, and getting laid. That wasn’t true for me. I didn’t get invited to parties, the football team jumped my friend and I when we were walking to 7-11 to get slurpees, so I sure as hell wasn’t going to their games to cheer them on. Oh, and I definitely wasn’t getting laid.

The only “parties” I experienced in high school were LAN parties. If you know what those are, you’ve probably been in my shoes. If you don’t know what a LAN party is, prepare to laugh. A LAN (Local Area Network) party is where several guys gather up, usually in a basement, all connected to the internet so they can play PC games together. If you’ve ever seen the “World Of Warcraft” episode of Southpark it’s exactly like that. Just to save me from any embarrassment, no, we didn’t play “World Of Warcraft”, what do I look like, some kind of nerd? We played “Counter-Strike 1.6”.

I did have friends though, a group of guys from my old school that I could actually be myself around. When I was with them, the real ‘Anthony’ came out. I could make all of them laugh, they thought I was cool. In this puzzle of brothership I was a major piece. When I was with those 5 or 6 guys I was in my comfort zone. The problem is, those 5 or 6 guys weren’t always around, and if I wanted to be successful in making new friends, getting invited to parties in the future, heck, even getting a good job, excelling in my career, and especially meeting women… I would have to figure out how to let “The real Anthony out” more often.

My Inspiration to Change
The person that gave me my first taste of what an actual party was like is my cousin, Frank. He regularly hosts pool parties over the summer. To say beautiful girls attend Frank’s pool parties would be an understatement. The ‘worst’ looking girl that attended would blow the hottest girl at my high school out of the water. I’m not fond the PU communities rating scale, because what woman can be beautiful in so many different ways, and what you might think is a 7, another guy may think is a 10, but to paint a picture for you, these girls are the kind of girls that regularly get husbands in trouble with their wives for checking them out while shopping.

Although Frank is 7 years older than me, and constantly surrounded by beautiful women, he didn’t treat me like the loser I thought I was, because around him I was comfortable. The real Anthony came out. I was funny, smooth, and quick-witted around him and the other people that were close to me. So he let me come to his pool parties and even introduced me to his girlfriends as somebody he was proud to be related to. They were nice to me because I was his cousin, but I was nobody they would remember for long. They just knew me as the little creep who kept checking their asses out under water with Goggles.

When the pool parties ended and I lay in bed, I would always wonder how Frank could date such beautiful girls. Why, even if he had a girlfriend, other beautiful woman still wanted to be friends with him. I came to the conclusion that it was his body. Did I forget to mention, Frank is an Amateur body builder? Not only is Frank an Amateur bodybuilder, he’s also an extremely good-looking dude. I’m trying to put this in the most non-gay way possible, well… just look at him:

So, I came to the conclusion that looks do matter.There are some things you can’t easily change about your physical appearance, at least not without a lot of money and surgery. Your nose, jaw line, teeth, the way your facial hair grows in, etc. However, there is one thing that everyone can change for the better. Not only is it easier to improve than most people think, but improving it will result in a bigger increase of confidence, and more initial attraction from the opposite sex than anything else. What I’m talking about is your body.

Note: I say initial attraction because simply having a nice body isn’t going to get you laid or into a relationship. You’ve got to be able to approach a girl, hold up your end of a conversation, and have the balls to close the deal, and all of that other stuff Aaron teaches you how to do. However, if you go out enough, you’ll run into situations where you meet girls who are looking to have sex, and all you’ve got to do is NOT fuck it up.

The problem was that I was 5’9”, 195lb of pale chubbiness. I wasn’t going to be running into any of those situations, and if I did, I most likely would have fucked it up.

What I Did About It
I set out on a mission to learn everything I could about building an attractive body. I must have bought every book on bodybuilding, nutrition, and weight training ever written. I signed up to just about every fitness forum. If there’s a fitness website out there, I’ve been to it. I borrowed Frank’s old FLEX magazines. I even started researching Human Psychology and Evolution to understand why girls liked guys like him and not guys like me.

I went from 195lbs of fat, down to 155lbs of skinny, and back up to 195lbs. However, this time when I was tipping the scales at nearly 200lbs… it was muscle. The best part is, I’m no longer that easily forgotten, chubby cousin of Frank’s. I evened the playing field. He regularly introduces me to girlfriends of his, and if one of his girlfriends has a friend that needs to be entertained. I’m the first person he calls. It feels good to go from looking up to him to having his approval. There’s even times he’s looked at me picking up a girl and said “Dude, how the hell did you do that? That was awesome!”

What I Learned
Everybody is cool to somebody. It doesn’t even matter if you’re a socially awkward wannabe professional gamer like I was. Somebody out there thinks you’re cool. It could be your best friend, your neighbor, somebody in your class or even your mom. Somebody out there thinks you’re cool, and somebody out there is bragging about you. They are bragging about you because they see a side of you that you might sometimes be afraid to let out.

Bodybuilding helped me change myself for the better and it can do the same for you. As you start to see your body changing in the mirror, something happens. You start to really like what you see, and you come to the realization that other people probably like what they see too. This does a lot for your self-esteem and confidence. You finally start to feel comfortable in your own skin, and the “real you” comes out more often. The “you” that your best friend, neighbor, and Mom brag about.

What Women Think About a Nice Body
I have a mentor that owns several multi-million dollar businesses, has a beautiful wife and kids, and no matter where he goes, people (women and men) just seem to like him. Even before they know about his success in business, and that his wife is beautiful, people like him. He’s the center of attention in every room he walks into. He’s also tall and well-built. He is a Frank. I was embarrassed at first, but I thought if I was ever going to crack the code, I had to ask him what the hell he is doing differently that makes everybody like him so much.

Here’s an excerpt from our e-mail conversation: Women are still attracted to the primal man. It's a biological desire coded into their genetics. Example, in the wild kingdom the female gazelle seeks out the male gazelle with the biggest and straightest horns. The lioness seeks out the bigger lion with the fuller mane, and they ignore the gazelle with the broken horn, or the uneven horns, or the limping lion with the mangy mane... not for the sake of looks but for safety, survival, breeding... all the biological and genetically hard coded stuff that makes a woman want to be with a MAN... a knight.

A strong and fit body on a human is equivalent to a fuller mane on a lion, or straight horns on a gazelle. It a sign that you will be able to produce healthy off spring, that you will be able to provide and protect. She might not be dating or fucking you purely for your body or looks, but you can damn sure bet she likes what she sees when the clothes come off. You are a lion, embrace it.

It’s Easier Than You Think
Fortunately for you (and me) women’s expectations of men aren’t what the media and Hollywood would want you to believe. You don’t have to look like Gerard Butler, David Beckham, or even my cousin Frank. They simply ask that we aren’t fat or weak looking. If you can do that, you’re well on your way to being the most “initially attractive” guy in the club, bar, classroom, wherever it is you are. Think about it, most guys are lazy. They don’t care what they eat, they don’t work out, and they don’t really care too much about their body at all until it’s deteriorating before their eyes.

If you’ve ever stepped into a gym you might get intimidated because of all the big guys walking around. Here’s the thing, though. There are a lot of big guys in the gym, because that’s where they go to get big. When you go out to a club on the weekend, fit guys are the minority. Women are surrounded by limping lions with mangy manes and gazelles with bent or broken horns. You have very little competition!

I know some of you might laugh at my idea that looks and body matter. You might think that if you master “game” you can blow these “AMOGs” out of the water with some Anti-AMOG tactic you learned from some dating guru. Sure, you might be able to blow out some ‘AMOG’ who doesn’t know what the hell he’s doing. However, an “AMOG” who knows real game is your worst nightmare.

I’ve been called a Jersey Shore looking douchebag by more people than I care to admit, but have you ever watched Jersey Shore? It might not be the most educational thing on T.V but those guys are in shape and they get laid. Whether you want to admit it or not, they ‘smoosh’ (Hah!) I’m not saying you should invest in steroids, Ed Hardy clothing, Rosaries, and vodka, but you should take care of your body.

I don’t like the way peacocking was interpreted in The Game. People lined up at the stores to buy leather pants, rocker boots, top hats, and all kinds of crazy looking clothes and accessories to attract attention in the club. Having a nice body and dressing well are a better version of pea cocking. They are attention grabbers, and although I’ve never tried wearing a trench coat, leather pants and goggles to a club. I have a hunch that the attention a nice body brings is a lot more positive and will go a lot further. What you do once you have a woman’s attention is up to you, but that’s why you guys have Aaron!

How You Can Get Started
Hopefully by now I’ve been able to turn you guys into believers, that having a nice body, while not 100% necessary for getting laid or getting into a relationship, will dramatically boost your results given you know what to do with it. If you liked what I had to say, Aaron is going to let me do a mini-series on “Minimal Game Of Bodybuilding.” The concept isn’t to turn you into a 200lb bodybuilder, but to get you out of the ‘Average looking guy’ category, which, if you haven’t realized by now, is a lot easier than it sounds.I’ll reveal things like muscle groups that woman find attractive (hint: it’s not just abs), the best exercises for getting those muscle groups to show in the minimal amount of time, and how to get into shape even if you don’t have a gym membership or equipment.

Anthony Myers
MuscleClass.com

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Upcoming Guest Poster: Anthony Myers from MuscleClass.com

After my Reddit Q&A, Anthony Myers from Muscle Class contacted me. He liked my position on "game," and I found his view on working out very reasonable. Since he was looking to broaden his exposure, and I got the impression that you guys will learn a lot from him as well, it seemed a good idea to bring him on board as a guest poster.

You will very soon be able to read his introduction. This will be followed by a concise series of posts on effective fitness routines. The working title for this is "The Minimal Game of Working Out." Obviously, it doesn't make much sense to devote a large bulk of one's spare time to either fitness or picking up girls, so if you like my no-nonsense approach to pulling girls, you'll surely find Anthony's guide helpful to. Afterwards, Anthony will post on health and fitness topics, regularly with a connection to "game."

Look forward to it!

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The Final Word on Height

I get annoyed when people try to attack me for my "negativity" when I tell them that height matters a great deal. Yes, if you you are short, you shouldn't be afraid of "cheating" by wearing shoes with a (slight) heel, and possibly height-increasing soles. After all, many women were heels as well. This strategy, however, is limited, and if you think you could gain some more inches by artificial means, then I'm sorry to tell you that doing so will completely mess up your proportions. In this post I thus want to present some strategies for successfully dealing with the issue of height, if it is a concern for you.

A case in point for a questionable coping strategy is "DJ Fuji" who prefers boosting his height by more than just a couple of inches. Unfortunately, I couldn't find an unaltered picture in my 45 seconds Google image search, so I had to settle for one off PUAHate. Notice how his upper body immediately strikes you as being too short. Thus, you invariably look down and notice his shoes.

If height was such a non-issue, then "DJ Fuji" surely goes to great lengths to compensate for his lack. Similarly, Mystery and Strauss advocated boosting your height by all possible means. Do they know something the average seduction student doesn't? Here's a typical comment, copy & pasted from some forum:

Seems to me like Aaron has submitted to the social conditioned brainwashing that its all about your looks height and money. Funny enough I know some tall good looking guys myself who have a very hard time hooking up with girls while their short average-looking friends seems to get all the attention in the bar. Sleazy is absolutely overestamating (sic!) the value height or looks is for a girl, a hot girl is so damn used to that shit its just "usual stuff".

Let me just deal with the last argument first, and imagine you were a male model that was being chased by one beautiful girl after another. Would you then think, once you see an unattractive and overweight girl, "Ah, finally not the usual stuff!", and immediately go after her? I'll leave the answer as an exercise to the reader.

Of course, I am not saying that if you are not tall, then your only option is to masturbate until the cows come home. Quite the opposite is true. It is simply a fact that women generally prefer men who are roughly the same height, but also that there are ways to compensate. For instance, if you are 5'5" or shorter, but have a really great body, you'll still get plenty of attention. I have very recently witnessed this in real life, namely a body builder picking up a couple of books in the library. He was wearing a tank top, thus exposing quite a bit of skin, and plenty of girls were eye-fucking him. Money and popularity will help, too, but that's not news to you, at least if you are roughly familiar with my view on seduction, or generally prefer reality over fiction.

The argument normally goes that X knows someone who is tall and/or good-looking but can't get anywhere with girls, while he has a short friend who cuts a wide swath. Upon further probing, though, it always emerges that the short guy has some redeeming qualities, and that the tall one is, say, very awkward. However, the tall awkward guy can fix his behavior, and ceteris paribus, he will then stand a better chance than the short guy.

The message is thus to strenghten your foundations. If you are a tall, socially awkward guy, then acquire solid social skills, and if you are short and are neglected by the ladies, then working out will severely boost your chances. By the way, Frank Zane was just 5'9", and this is what he looked like:

The key to dealing with height is to simply accept it as it is. You can't change it, so don't spend mental energy on it. Instead of arguing that someone who points out to you that ceteris paribus a taller guy is almost universally more attractive than a shorter one (beyond 6'4" or 6'5" this is debatable, though) is "negative", hit the gym, make more money, or try to increase your popularity. After all, it's improbable that you'll ever compete with for a particular woman with a guy who is exactly like you but two inches taller.

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Improving the Reward to Effort Ratio

Johnny, a reader of my blog, brought up some interesting points in reply to my post Reddit.com Q&A Afterthoughts.

I feel day game in general has very low reward to effort ratio. Street game is just downright pathetic in this regard. I was initially sold on the idea that not every chick goes to bars/clubs but everyone definitely has to, say, do grocery shopping. Very quickly, after getting my first 10-15 numbers (and all of them flaked), I realized that it is a complete waste of time. You have zero control over the variables involved.

I completely agree with this statement. What is particularly questionable about street game is that you often can’t even make a good guess about basic compatibility because most people have to dress in a certain way for work. Obviously, you’ll do a lot better if you are able to style yourself for a particular audience.

This observation bridges to the second statement Johnny has made:

The issue is the one of reward to effort ratio. A lot of people get dismayed by hearing about these PUA gurus, pulling so many chicks, about how you should have an abundance mentality regarding women, blah blah blah. Something which these guys are not so explicit about is the amount of time they spend focusing on this, and thus their actual reward to effort ratio.

IMO, if some dude is in mid 30s and has been going out, say, 3 nights or more every week for the past 10 years, and then even if he has slept with 30-40 women, it just sounds fucked up on so many levels. First, its a pathetic reward to effort ratio. Second, the reason why one would want to do this for say 10 years, is completely not clear to me. We are not even having a chat about whether these numbers are even real, and the quality of chicks in question.

Anyway, my question is, what do you think are some of the key things which a guy can do to improve his effort to reward ratio? Also, what do you see are some of most common mistakes which guys make that make this ratio crap?

It is indeed the case that hardly anybody in this scene likes to talk about actual numbers. When I was posting on public forums a lot, someone pointed out to me that I had published more “lay reports” than Style, Mystery, and a handful other “big name gurus” put together. I wasn’t aware of this because I never took those people seriously to begin with. But of course, the difference between myth and reality is a great starting point to explore this topic.

First of all, I’d like to remind you that Style admitted, in The Game, that he was teaching Mystery Method before he even had one “lay” using his master’s method. You’d have to be severely deluded to find nothing questionable about that. Compared to this, you should probably applaud Mehow for starting teaching after one (!) “lay”. He admitted this after being publicly questioned, and the sources are to be found in my ebook Debunking the Seduction Community.

Strauss and Mehow are not the only offenders, though. To a great extent, it’s a matter of perception. Some people seem to think that just because someone posts a group picture of himself and a couple of girls in a club, that he has banged all of them. Nothing could be further from the truth, and in fact, for many “PUAs” the regular outcome of the night is to go home empty-handed. They even admit this themselves, if you are able to connect the dots.

For instance, TylerDurden from Real Social Dynamics used to brag about having banged "over 100 girls" in three years. This may or may not be true, and I won’t tell you right now what my opinion is, but given that he also said that this was the end result of going out 1,000 nights in a row (probably an equally exaggerated claim), the ratio is pathetic. Tyler seems to select his coaches on mathematical ability, since the same calculation is presented by Brad Branson, who similarly claims to have been going out “at least 1,000 nights in three years” and, of course, has been with “over 100 women.” You can read this and other fairy tales in his Reddit Q&A.

So, given that “gurus” claim that getting laid one in ten nights is good enough to teach, why do people then feel insufficient? Of course, “one in ten” sounds much less intimidating than “five out of five”, or Mehow’s classic “I can steal any girl from her boyfriend in 15 minutes.” (Sure, and I run faster than Usain Bolt.) In terms of reward to effort, the ratio is still rather bad. You have to remember that those guys claim to live for pickup, so it’s not like us normal guys who like to go to clubs because we like going to clubs, and shag some birds when we feel like it, until we eventually settle down.

But what do you do to improve the ratio? One key mistake, of course also perpetrated by pretty much every "PUA" out there, is to not knowing what you go for. If you dress generic, then this is you. If you go to a mainstream club because you listen to nothing else than what is played on the radio, then this is you, too.

To really boost your ratio, given that you have taken care of the absolute fundamentals like being (somewhat) in shape, and having your own place in a good location, you have to make an active effort in finding girls who are compatible on some level. I’ll just run you through some bullet points now, since I have explained this process in great detail in Minimal Game:

- some similarities; could be as simple as liking the same kind of music (this is your “entry point”)
- equal or higher socio-economic status (less important for hook-ups, but even for flings, it starts to matter)
- comparable level of beauty
- roughly similar height; ideally you are two to three inches taller than her (this measure may include her height in heels in a club)

Many guys go wrong by going for girls who are out of reach for them. Of course, you can now say that I am “negative” and “tell people to settle for scraps.” However, there is a competition going on for girls. The most attractive ones normally have no shortage of suitors, and if you think that a little bit of “game” will compensate for your lack of popularity, looks, and money, then you’ll be in for a rude awakening. Yet, this is where so many men fail, and they do so because the allegedly easier option is so much more tempting. Eventually, though, they will learn, due to their utter lack of success, that they have been sold snake oil.

This resentment, albeit with a focus on relationships, is mirrored in a recent post by Assanova on RealMadeMen, "Getting a Girlfriend 101”:

One constant theme that keeps coming up with single men, is that the women constantly flake and they can't seem to get anywhere with them. What that tells me is that either most men don't understand what I'm about to tell you, or they do, and are completely delusional about where they really stand.

I'll tell you guys, outside of a social circle type setting, game is completely useless when it comes to getting a date or a girlfriend. And I don't need to tell you that game is useless outside of a long-term setting, because the results speak for themselves. Most of you have to approach tens or hundreds of women, or go outside of America, just to get one single date. There's absolutely no point in arguing because I am right, and like I said, the results speak for themselves (and please, don't come at me with a guy who is already comparatively attractive, popular, or has money, and try to use him as an example of "game" working.).

Now that you're ready to listen to the truth that I speak, understand that a woman will only date you if one of three things occur: you appear to make MUCH more money than her (and are willing to show it by spending some serious cash), you look MUCH better than the men that approach her (it doesn't matter if she is fat; what matters is what the men who approach her look like), or you appear to have a MUCH better social life than her.

So, to repeat: If your “ratio” sucks, then it’s probably because your foundations are severely lacking. If your ratio doesn’t improve after you’ve fixed it, then you probably don’t market yourself properly to your audience. Thus, improve your looks as much as you possibly can, make sure you’ve got a stable income, and maintain a circle of friends. This is the bare minimum you have to do. If you fail, then you may nonetheless boast with having been with “over 60 women in ten years”, but leave out that you had to go out over a thousand nights, and approached probably 10,000 women. (I know of at least one guy like that, and a few others who I suspect might be similar but haven’t bothered to probe into their history.)

Now some may object that you want to have a “quality girlfriend” and don’t really care about the number of girls you sleep with. This is a different objective, and hardly one a “PUA” who boasts about the almost proverbial “100 women” can claim to follow. Yet, the process is the same, and the only difference is that you will turn down, or not react to, the many women who would want to get with you.

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