Single Guys, your Life is NOT at Risk

Seriously, I have yet to come across anyone who makes more bizarre claims than Vin DiCarlo. Of course, an absolute classic is his "Why Working Out is Killing Your Chances with Women." However, he hasn't been lazy. Some time ago, he claimed that your life is at risk if you are a single guy. So, let's have a look at that marketing email:

WARNING: If you're a single male in an
English-speaking country, you're life
is at risk...

Recent studies on single men show a
higher than normal occurrence of cancer,
depression, heart attacks and other
diseases than at ANY OTHER TIME
in the world's history.

Apart from the creative spelling of "you're life", the lack of sources is obvious. Also, the obvious connection, if this were all true, is to ask why single men nowadays get more depressed than single men in earlier times. Couldn't it just be that people in general get more depressed because of increased stress at work and the recent tendency to not only work overtime but to have no real weekend anymore in some professions thanks to the pervasive use of Blackberries?

Why's this? Well, the scientific results
cite different things: From the things
you eat to your lifestyle choices -
like smoking.

However, I have a completely different
explanation, entirely...

This is hilarious, because it shows how those bullshit artists think: "Geez, here is science or maybe just common sense, but instead I'll just make up some shit!"

I THINK BEING SINGLE IS
KILLING YOU BECAUSE
BEING SINGLE SUCKS...

A critical mind can readily establish that not being single is killing you but your lifestyle choices, so this is completely ridiculous. But let's just have a look why being single sucks:

You wake up every morning, pent up
with sexual energy, because you don't
have a woman around to give you a
good release...

So that's all women in Vin DiCarlo's world are good for? Frankly, if you just want sexual release, then masturbation and/or seeing a hooker will do the trick as well.

Your stress builds up and builds up,
because you have no one to vent to,
and no one to share your life with...

...and single guys all over the world sit in their empty rooms, and cry because no one has ever loved them, nor will there ever be someone who loves them. Give me a break!

Being single in Vin DiCarlo's world apparently meansm "being single, having absolutely zero friends, and being too afraid to whack off". Awesome.

You look at women walking by you
every single day on the street, and
you wonder who they're with...

What?

… and then...

… You tell yourself they'd never be
interested in you. You pile stress on
top of stress on top of misery and
sadness.

And ultimately – you end up with
what I call a "Pain Cocktail" that
fucks up your life and makes it
easier for you to catch diseases.

(Studies show depression practically
kills your immune system off, and makes
it easy to catch diseases from damn
near anyone...)

Wow, what a simple world we all live in! I tell you what, Vin DiCarlo, you are at a much higher risk catching diseases if you fuck around like crazy, so a single guy should be much healthier.

THE GOOD NEWS IS:

It doesn't have to be this way!

Because you can have a wife,
a girlfriend or even a one-night
stand... even if... talking to women
PETRIFIES you, right now.

All it requires is sending Vin DiCarlo some grand and he'll take care of all your problems, especially if one of it is not knowing what to do with all your money.

What follows in his marketing email is just a sales pitch for some inane product. But let's continue a more serious discussion: Vin DiCarlo makes some bold assumption about the misery of single guys, but while there are plenty of single guys (with our without women) who are perfectly happy, so are there many guys in relationships who are -- surprise! -- either happy or unhappy. In fact, I have strong reason to believe that the level of unhappiness that comes from a dysfunctional relationship is far worse than a single guy's "misery".

Of course, I don't deny that you can be happy in a relationship. However, the question of happiness is much more related to how much you like yourself. Anything external, be it the latest smartphone (because an expensive ad campaign tells you that you've got to have one) or a girlfriend (because TV shows etc. tell you that it's not normal to have none). Yet, being single, especially when you are a young guy, is fully accepted in all but the most conservative circles.

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Why the 90/10 Rule is Nonsense

It’s my lucky day because in addition to bashing BradP one more time, I also get to show you why one of the main teachings of the mainstream seduction industry is completely bogus. In one of his recent marketing emails, BradP defines the 90/10 rule as:

90/10 rule means that you are talking 90% of the time and the girl is talking 10% of the time. If that ratio is occurring early on in your approaches you are doing fine.

I am not specifically targeting BradP now, because this “rule” is one of the main dogmas of Mystery who is one of the founding fathers of the seduction industry. Instead of looking for some algorithm, let’s use some good old common sense and answer me this question: How large would the contribution of a girl who is really interested in you be? Probably at least 50%, and if you have spoken to a few girls in your life, then you also know that it’s easily the case that they just won’t stop talking, which means that you could well be restricted to 10% of the time, not the other way round.

But let’s see how a “pick-up guru” like BradP argues why this nonsensical rule is valid:

If she is talking less than 10% of the time, that’s not good cause it’s like you’re lecturing her. But girls tend to not talk at all sometimes, so you have to ask a question or get her to agree with something just to get her to hold up her 10%.

Let me point something out here: if you are speaking 90% of the time, you are already lecturing her, and even if she gets to speak a quarter of the time, you are still completely dominating the conversation, which is not good in this context.

So, why would she shut up and have to be tricked into contributing her “10%” by trying to make her ask questions and the like?

One reason is of course that she is just not interested in you, but because there is no one else to talk to (yet), she let’s you ramble on because she likes getting male attention. That she is merely using the guy and will quickly drop him once a more attractive one is around is of course implied. On the other hand, some girls are genuinely shy, but even in this case they will want to contribute something. Given that the “90/10” rule is associated with “indirect game”, let’s do some math here:

Speaking 90 % of the time means you talking 9 out of 10 minutes. Viewed on an hourly scale, it means that she has only 6 minutes to contribute something. I think this is a travesty, but the “PUA” who is reeling off his scripted stories probably disagrees. Well, it does’t seem to bother him that he barely ever gets laid either.

If you don’t know about this rule, you might sometimes be feeling like you’re not doing well because the girl isn’t talking much. But that’s not the case.

Yes, it is the case! If she isn’t talking much then she is not interested. Is this so difficult to understand?

How do you know if you’re doing well? She’s still standing there listening. If she doesn’t walk away, chances are you’re doing fine. That is a USEFUL assumption, even if it’s not always true, because it will make you project confidence.

One problem emerges, though: How does our little aspiring “pick-up artist” know that the girl isn’t merely just enduring him? Maybe he just doesn’t care about such trifles. The fact that a guy who waffles on and on doesn’t portray confidence doesn’t seem to make him want to shut up either.

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Jeez..... BradP's "Updated Phone Game Procedures"

My next book is coming along nicely. Since the text ins currently in the hands of my editor, I thought I'd continue with bashing BradP. But don't worry, you will learn plenty from this post even if you couldn't care less about this character.

In his recent newsletter, BradP gave his opinion on the current state of text game. So, check this out:

IMO the current best move is this-
Have a 20-45 minute text conversation, texting back and forth every 30 seconds or so. Along the way you'll send and receive dozens of texts. It's the new way to get to know each other. Then at the end you go for the day 2.

BradP, you are kidding, right? I really hope you do.

Listen, if she is willing to text with you for "20-45 minutes", then you probably don't know what a green light. Your first text should have been, "Hey, wanna meet up tonight at X?" anyway. What "guru" BradP recommends is a colossal waste of time, and what is worse is that by prolonging the text conversation like this, you are nothing but increasing your chances to lose the girl's interest. So, what do you think of "guru" advice of that caliber? (Maybe he's misleading you on purpose, hoping that after your "text game" doesn't work out, you fork out two grand for a "boot camp".)

Not only will the girl wonder why you are such a fucking pussy and don't dare to just ask her to meet up. Also, the need to write dozens of not completely dull text messages might make girls uncomfortable. In fact, it probably makes you feel uncomfortable too, and there are only so many innuendoes you can come up with before you risk repeating yourself. In fact, many girls are so insecure that they feel being put on the spot after receiving a "witty" text message. But Jane Dull just wants to meet up with you and fuck. Yet, with your barrage of text messages, you only end up confusing her.

Lastly, texting a lot sends out a rather bad signal: namely that you have nothing else to do. And this is indeed true. My phone is on mute basically all day, and I hardly ever check it, because I've got a lot on my plate. Once you leave college behind, this will be the norm for you as well because your job and commuting will occupy most of your time. Then you will think twice if you text some random broad for an hour or just read a chapter in a book you find interesting.

More from BradP:

Also, phone game seems to be DEAD, and the 30 minute text marathon is IN!!

Have you run a marathon yet, BradP?

But there are exceptions. I sat on the phone with a chick for 90 minutes last night. But I had done about 6-7 texts with her during the day.

Oh, really? What about telling her to come over instead?

What was most startling, though, was that there is some truth in the misinformation he provides in his summary:

Also, I think a lot of it is coming down to the following factors- 

1- whether you made a strong impression and got enough attraction when you met her 

2- whether she has a bunch of other dudes already in her rotation 

If you didnt have attraction and she's dating 5 dudes, no technique will work. If she's currently got an opening, and you hit it out of the park on the initial approach, anything will work.

Points of interest are:

1) You don't "get attraction". Either you are attractive to her or not. I know that companies like Love Systems tell otherwise ("you can generate attraction"), but they would be out of business if they dropped the bullshit.

2) In the second statement, BradP insinuates that all girls are sluts and fuck ten guys in parallel. This is not quite true either.

3) I wonder whether BradP thinks his potential customers are complete idiots. In the end, he states that "anything will work" if she is available and finds you attractive. But why on earth would you then waste your time with half an hour of text messages!? It just doesn't make any sense at all.

Rumor has it that BradP wasn't exactly the brightest bulb in the pack at college, and what I read of him only confirms this. He's certainly especially weak when it comes to logical thinking.

Captain Picard agrees too, by the way:

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BradP wants you to void the warranty of your iPhone!

Oh well, oh well! Technology isn't everybody's strong suit, and being forwarded an email with the title "How to Chick-Proof your Iphone" surely raised my suspicion. In it, BradP, or some marketing drone that works for him, actually recommends a procedure for "proofing" your iPhone that will void your warranty. Isn't that handy?

Before I go on chastising BradP for making you void the warranty on your iPhone, let's have a laugh at this quote:

BTW, this article could be good for women too. Lots of boyfriends are insecure and stalker-ish. So here's an easy guide to how to secure your iPhone from anyone who wants to control you, including boyfriends, girlfriends, fuck-buddies, parents, roommates, and any other weirdos that you may have in your life.

So, BradP, do you really say that the family and anybody the reader of your marketing email has sex with is a weirdo? The wording certainly suggests so.

But enough of that, and onto hacking our iPhones:

Here's the process, abbreviated:

1- Jailbreak your iPhone
2- Get BiteSMS from Cydia
3- Get LockInfo from Cydia
4- Set a password in the general settings of your iPhone

Even though jailbreaking is relatively common, it is not without drawbacks. Apple isn't especially fond of it either. To quote from their support document "Unauthorized modification of iOS has been a major source of instability, disruption of services, and other issues".

Apple strongly cautions against installing any software that hacks the iOS. It is also important to note that unauthorized modification of the iOS is a violation of the iPhone end-user license agreement and because of this, Apple may deny service for an iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch that has installed any unauthorized software.

But, all is cool, because who cares if Apple tells you to GFY once your iPhone stops working due to certain hacks. After all, at least now nobody can snoop our your phone. Not even yourself.

Nice one, BradP!

I'm looking forward to your other emails, BradP, and I have a hunch that they won't disappoint me.

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