The reactions I got from women recently and in past times when I tried to physically escalate rapidly at nighttime have shown me that women who seemed sexually interested at first have been turned off by it. Of course, they could have not been interested in the first place.
There were a few things that stood out to me. First, how can you be sure that she is sexually interested if you just stand there, and if she’s acting rather passively? It wasn’t as if she couldn’t keep her hands off him, or was squeezing his junk. The guy in question admitted, which is nothing to be ashamed of, that he has had very little sexual experience with women.
A mistake many inexperienced guys make, and one that is accidentally or deliberately exploited by alleged pickup gurus is that they mistake mere friendliness for sexual interest. This is why those gurus teach you “openers” that are non-sexual and not particularly risky. You’re supposed to entertain them, and gradually turn things sexual. She tolerates your presence, and you mistakenly believe you're making progress, even though you're only treading water.
If she’s not sexually attracted, then it doesn’t really matter how interesting you stories are. True, she may willingly listen to you, but she’s not going to fuck you — unless you turn out to be a successful standup comedian with millions in the bank.
She looks at you and knows whether she’s interested. It’s a biological response. If you bang her and later on ask for why she ended up going home with you, you’ll only get some instantaneously made up explanation that may or may not be true. This is because sexual attraction is a biological response, not a rational one. On the other hand, fucking a guy just for his money is something she does because she's been thinking her plan through. However, those of you who belong to that category of guy may know that such women act much differently towards you than those who are sexually attracted.
But let’s say she’s standing there and seemingly enjoys your presence. Maybe you think she’s sexually interested. It could of course also be the case that she just wants some male attention, to appear desired, or get some free drinks out of you. It’s easy for her to pretend that she’s interested in you as long as you don’t make a move. It's also very easy for her to pretend that she's sexy and attractive if she's got some guy talking to her, even if she isn't interested in him at all. Plenty of women won't turn an opportunity down to get their ego stroked. It just doesn't mean that she'll stroke your cock in return.
Some time ago a guy told me that he ended up talking to some girl in a hotel bar, bought her a couple of drinks, and she was rather flirtatious — but when he suggested going for a walk, and after she refused, asking for her number — she claimed she was “not that kind of girl” and walked off, in a pretend-indignant way. There is a bright side to that, though. As the German philosopher Schopenhauer wrote — I’m paraphrasing from memory, and translating from German, so please don’t bug me if you can’t find the exact same phrase in a translation:
No money is better spent than money we’ve been tricked out of. After all, we directly traded it for wisdom.
If more men would put a monetary value on the time they spend on women who only lead them on, I'm tempted to think they would realize the mistakes they are making. I hope that those of you who fall for those tricks will now start to trade not just your money, but also your time, directly for wisdom.
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