Illuminatus Interviews Aaron Sleazy

Some time ago I have hinted at an upcoming interview Illuminatus from Personal Power Meditation conducted with me. It's long, but it will be worth it, especially if you want to learn more about my meditative practice and my general outlook on life, both of which had a big positive impact on my level of success with women.

This is from the introduction:

I made Sleazy my mentor, paying strict attention to his writings and exchanging emails with him regularly. As a meditation teacher, I became particularly interested in how Sleazy had used meditative methods to create the mindset of clarity and focus which he attributes much of his success to. Thus, instead of focusing on his adventures in seduction (which are already well-documented), in this interview I have chosen to focus on the mental basis of Aaron Sleazy: the man himself, and how he developed the psychological wherewithal to become a master seducer capable of flouting social norms and behaving on his own agenda at will – a feat most men only dream of.

Please go ahead and read Illuminatus's "Interview With Aaron Sleazy"!

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Review: "How to Make Girls Chase" by Chase Amante

I have known Chase Amante for many years now. Our paths first crossed on mASF where he called himself Regal. He did not post much, but whenever he shared his knowledge, it was unusually insightful and very thorough as well. Thus, I was excited when I received his first book How to Make Girls Chase.

How to Make Girls Chase belongs to a new breed of books on pick-up that strive to give guys a realistic perspective on seduction, unlike Neil Strauss’s The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists or Mystery’s The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, which both present a contrived model of seduction that is far from easily applicable, and oftentimes quite useless. Of course, the standard defense to this accusation is that Mystery’s “game” was developed to pull girls in the nightclubs of Hollywood. But if this is the case, then his teachings are of questionable merit for anyone who does not life in Los Angeles or wants to go after this particular kind of girl.

On the other hand, Chase Amante has the average guy in mind, no matter where he lives, what he does, or what kind of women he wants. He even goes to great lengths to also addresses the needs of people who seemingly start out below zero. This is not a mocking remark, though. How to Make Girls Chase is a very thorough book, and in its 420 pages it covers issues so detailed and intricate that no other seduction coach has written on them yet. For an experienced seducer, it is easy to take some things as granted, but for men without success, it’s often hard to realize that some of their habits literally drive women away.

Having a wealth of relevant information at your fingertips is great, but the downside is that guys can easily fall into the trap of believing that they have to learn or know everything in this book before they can go out and succeed with women. This is obviously not the case. If you want to get the most out of this book, I therefore recommend that you skim it first to get an overview. If something strikes you as too detailed, then it probably is because it’s an area you don’t have much need to improve on. On the other hand, you will most certainly find that you are lacking in some other areas, and in this case, make at least a note and get back to this section later.

Since every guy who writes on seduction draws from his own experiences (at least the legit ones do, the others just make things up) we pay attention to different aspect. As such, I don’t fully agree with some details — the general direction is definitely alright. To illustrate this, I will cite from the book:

If a woman feels a man is too easy, she will think little of him and his value (if he’s so valuable, why is he so easy to get?). Women will tend to dismiss him, although because they perceive him as too easy for them to get (and thus, lower in value than themselves), they will typically dismiss him in a thoughtful way that seeks to take care of his emotions.

This may be a valid interpretation. In the framework Chase Amante operates in, it is certainly a sensible piece of information, and heeding this advice will make it hard for you to ruin your chances with a woman that is interested in you. However, it is important to keep in mind that this can also be a matter of personal style, and not the only possible approach. Chase’s book shows you a lot of ways to meet women, and unlike the books I have mentioned in the beginning in the review, he does not come across as dogmatic.

But as it is often the case, there are corner cases where generally plausible rules don’t always apply. You certainly won’t shoot yourself in the foot if you stick to the advice of the quote. However, if you live in a metropolis with a vibrant nightlife and no shortage of women, you can play play the game hard and fast. You just don’t have to worry much about losing one girl if the next one you like is just two feet away. I know this is a luxury not everybody has, but in those situations you can comfortable indicate to the woman that you are “easy.” You can communicate that this is her one chance to get with you. She can take it or leave it, and she has to know that you’ll just pick some other girl if she doesn’t want to leave with you. Of course, this is a much more advanced approach to seduction and one not many guys would even dare to pull off. Yet, in the right context you can never be too easy if you want to get laid quickly.

However, given that Chase addresses the beginner to intermediate guy, I really can’t hold it against him that he omits special scenarios. Doing so would arguably just be confusing to the target audience of his book anyway, because you have to have a significant amount of experience in the first place. In general, How to Make Girls Chase does a great job to describe seduction to the layman and will give you a solid foundation. It is an excellent guide, and, even better, it is a very useful companion to go back and read up on various aspects of seduction. Even for an experienced guy it is a joy to go through the book. I felt as if I was comparing notes with Chase, and found out that we agree on a lot of of topics, and on others, we have a slightly different interpretation.

You may not agree with every fine detail if you are an experienced seducer, but this book will at the very least make you aware of some minor aspects of seduction you have not paid much attention to before. Thus, it may help you to refine some parts of your “game”. On the other hand, if you don’t belong to that small group of people, you should go ahead and get How to Make Girls Chase because it will not only give you an excellent foundation. It also has so much content that you will grow with it. As you work through the material, you will learn to reflect on it and put your own experiences into context. Eventually, you will mature as both a seducer — and a man.

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BradP wants you to void the warranty of your iPhone!

Oh well, oh well! Technology isn't everybody's strong suit, and being forwarded an email with the title "How to Chick-Proof your Iphone" surely raised my suspicion. In it, BradP, or some marketing drone that works for him, actually recommends a procedure for "proofing" your iPhone that will void your warranty. Isn't that handy?

Before I go on chastising BradP for making you void the warranty on your iPhone, let's have a laugh at this quote:

BTW, this article could be good for women too. Lots of boyfriends are insecure and stalker-ish. So here's an easy guide to how to secure your iPhone from anyone who wants to control you, including boyfriends, girlfriends, fuck-buddies, parents, roommates, and any other weirdos that you may have in your life.

So, BradP, do you really say that the family and anybody the reader of your marketing email has sex with is a weirdo? The wording certainly suggests so.

But enough of that, and onto hacking our iPhones:

Here's the process, abbreviated:

1- Jailbreak your iPhone
2- Get BiteSMS from Cydia
3- Get LockInfo from Cydia
4- Set a password in the general settings of your iPhone

Even though jailbreaking is relatively common, it is not without drawbacks. Apple isn't especially fond of it either. To quote from their support document "Unauthorized modification of iOS has been a major source of instability, disruption of services, and other issues".

Apple strongly cautions against installing any software that hacks the iOS. It is also important to note that unauthorized modification of the iOS is a violation of the iPhone end-user license agreement and because of this, Apple may deny service for an iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch that has installed any unauthorized software.

But, all is cool, because who cares if Apple tells you to GFY once your iPhone stops working due to certain hacks. After all, at least now nobody can snoop our your phone. Not even yourself.

Nice one, BradP!

I'm looking forward to your other emails, BradP, and I have a hunch that they won't disappoint me.

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BradP loves him some money!

I'm currently preparing two articles on BradP, but as a warmup, here's something I don't know whether I should laugh or cry about: His latest offering called "Millionaire Makeover". The price is a modest $100k. Surely, that's not exactly chump change. The reader who sent me that info commented, "$100k...what a joke!!", and I am sure if you have a sane bone left in your body, you'll agree.

But, hey, for that amount of money you'll receive some great stuff, like:

Lifestyle Streamlining
Positivity training

Wow. Where do I sign up for that?

The kicker was the description:

When you complete this process, you can expect to be fully transformed. Your game, your appearance, your presence, and your lifestyle will be drawing women in at all times. Brad will also make sure that you are attracting a specific kind of woman, the kind of woman you have always wanted. You will learn how to leverage your wealth effectively, without allowing women into your life who are self-interested, manipulative, or negative.

But let's be honest here, if you are wealthy, then wealth will always be a factor for the women you are with, no matter what they say. Golddiggers will try to reel you in before they make demands, or do you honestly think they approach you with, "Sweety, do you want to by me an apartment in the Latin Quarter in Paris?"

If you want to leverage that amount of money effectively, you are probably better off spending two weeks in LA or Vegas and booking a different porn star every day. One hour with the star of your choice sets you back $1,000 to $1,500 and, as I have been told, you can get them cheaper if you make the effort of emailing them privately.

Now, I am not a big advocate of paying for sex, but if you are so desperate, and wealthy enough, to seriously consider shelling out $100k for a "boot camp" that doesn't even guarantee sex, then there are better options. Of course, there is always the hope that the person organizing the boot camp will shell out a few hundred dollars and plant a hooker in the club, to make sure the rich client gets something for his money in return.

However, in real life, a rich guy should have no problem having women throwing themselves at them. It's all a matter of comparative wealth anyway. The same way Joe Average and his brother Jim Ugly can get laid like rockstars in Cuba, Costa Rica, Thailand, or the Philippines, a wealthy guy will have no problems getting laid in the more exclusive places on this planet. As long as he flaunts a bit of his money, he'll be golden. Heck, I have seen plenty of not exactly handsome older men with beautiful women on their sides, and the fact that those dudes were driving Lamborghini Gallardos or owning yachts surely had nothing to do with it. Nothing at all.

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Three interesting posts at The Seduction Community

The magic over at The Seduction Community is already happening, and some very good posts have already appeared.

My buddy Sixty has re-posted his classic "Anti-Manifesto", which you should definitely check out if you haven't already.

I consider this an anti-manifesto because most strategies usually focus on what you need to do or say. There is nothing to say. There is nothing to do.

Your whole life you have been doing things to lessen tension. You have always tried to make everybody else around you feel more comfortable at your own expense. You do this with your friends, your co-workers and especially the women you like. When things get tense or awkward you're the big clown making everyone laugh and feel comfortable. Even when girls reject you, you are more worried about their comfort level than your own. You don't want her to feel awkward. Aw!

This is bad because doing things to help women feel more comfortable with the sexual tension will be viewed by her as supplication. A woman is never going to be attracted to a man that can handle LESS sexual tension than she can.

But there is some new blood, too. Warped Mindless wrote an article on "The ESP Model of Escalation." The acronym stands for Eye Contact, Sexualization, Physical Touch.

Most guys go about touching women the wrong way. They give her a little should touch when she says something funny, or gives her a little high five to reward her for something she does that he likes. Lame touches like this isn't going to turn the woman on. She isn't going to want to drop her pants and spread her legs because you gave her a tap on the shoulder or a small pat on the back. If anything she will just think your weird and honestly, she would be right.

The right way to touch a woman in to touch her like a man. Every thing you do in an interaction should be "From a man to a woman" kind of way. Not as her friend, not as her buddy, but as a MAN.

It is definitely a good reminder for guys who are afraid of being sexual when they are out to pick up women.

Lastly, Illuminatus wrote an insightful post with the title "Women do not actually know why they find you attractive!". If you are not familiar with Illuminatus's writing, you should definitely check him out, because he has a gift for getting at the core of problems (and in a completely non-rambling way, too).

The issue with asking women what it is they like, at its core, is neither that the reasons women give are all different, nor that they share some hidden commonality, but rather that the feeling of attraction in a woman is based in such primitive pre-language circuits that it happens too quickly and they have no hope of articulating the actual THING they liked.

This leads to women completely rationalizing their attraction after-the-fact, often with the first reason that pops into their heads! Like all humans, women cannot stand the cognitive dissonance of feeling something but not knowing why -- so they rationalize it away. Except women are not too interested in accuracy generally, so they will attribute ANY trait as the causative factor of their attraction.

So, join us over there at The Seduction Community!

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Sleazy Stories finally in German!

You wouldn't read this if you weren't able to read German, so I'll switch to that language now:

Schmierige Geschichten: Bekenntnisse eines modernen Verführers

Schmierige Geschichten: Bekenntnisse eines modernen Verführers ist eine Sammlung von Aaron Sleazys erinnerungswürdigsten Begegnungen mit dem zarten Geschlecht. Er schildert seine unterhaltsamsten, verrücktesten und bizarrsten Abenteuer auf seiner Mission, im Nachtleben Londons und Berlins Frauen aufzureißen. Diese Memoiren zeichnen nach, wie Aaron Sleazy ein wahrer Meister der Verführung wurde. Obwohl dieses Buch die Erlebnisse von weniger als einem Jahr beinhaltet, enthält es mehr sexuelle Vielfalt und Kuriositäten als das gesamte Leben der meisten Männer.

Obwohl Schmierige Geschichten kein Lehrbuch über die Verführung von Frauen sein will, sind die Geschichten, die es enthält, nicht nur höchst unterhaltsam, sondern auch mit faszinierenden Einblicken in die weibliche Psyche gespickt, die jedem, der an ihr interessiert ist, neue Erkenntnisse bringen wird. Egal, ob Du unterhalten, inspiriert oder über das wahre Wesen der Frauen aufgeklärt werden möchtest — dieses Buch wird Dich mehr als befriedigen!

Details und Bestellinformationen
Taschenbuch: 230 Seiten
Sprache: Deutsch
ISBN: 978-3-942017-02-2
Verlag: Black Swallowtail Publishing
Veröffentlichungstermin: 1. September 2011

Paperback: €8.95
Amazon.de (bald erhältlich) • Amazon.com • Amazon.co.uk

Ebook (Amazon Kindle): €3.99, $4.99, £3.49
Amazon.de • Amazon.com • Amazon.co.uk

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Please note that I have no idea what's wrong with Amazon.de. The paperback is already available at Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk, but the catalogue entry at their German site hasn't been changed. I'll email them about it.

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Join us at TheSeductionCommunity.com!

Together with friends and colleagues, we have begun setting up a general-purpose forum on seduction which is open to everyone. We have aptly named it TheSeductionCommunity! Please join us over there.

Note: If you have an account at TheSeducers, then please register under your old username. TheSeductionCommunity is a separate forum, but we may be able to import the old forum posts. Consequently, the forum at TheSeducers will be frozen. But enough with the preliminary remarks, here is the announcement:


Our forum "The Seduction Community" is the result of our discontent with the general forum landscape on the Internet. There is literally no independent forum seduction left. Instead, sites such as mASF, MPUA Forum, RSD Nation, or the Attraction Forums are primarily used as a funnel for making people spend money on oftentimes questionable products.

Despite the rampant commercialism of mASF, it used to be the last remaining forum on which you could openly exchange your views. Well, this was at least the case until people like Aaron Sleazy, TVA_Oslo, TheCostOfSuccess, and SixtyYearsOfChallenge gained prominence and not only gathered a massive crowd of followers. They also questioned the efficiency of the mainstream teachings, which was still largely based on "routines" and baseless promises of "quick-fixes". Obviously, the stakeholders of mASF weren't too pleased about this development.

As the owner of mASF, Jay Valens aka "formhandle" let his forum fall into utter disarray, almost all influential members left his site more than two years ago. If you have been a member of it, you will probably agree that the competency of those people is sorely missing. However, the reason for our departure was not just hostility from the moderators and the owner of mASF, but also that mASF just didn't provide a suitable venue anymore due to its lack of moderation. "Trolling" is a problem you could easily fix, at least if you weren't complacent about it.

Also, the "signal-to-noise" ratio deteriorated dramatically, and looking for a decent post is akin to finding the proverbial needle in the haystack. This is also a result of poor management, because if you let inexperienced users post on every board, they will of course dilute the quality of the discussion. The negative consequences of this are obvious as well.

At "The Seduction Community" we have solutions to both problems. Not only do we have proper moderation to avoid trolling. We also have a two-tiered system of users. This means that every user starts out as a "beginner" and has access only to the beginners' section on this forum. However, as soon as he has contributed insightful posts, he will quickly be promoted to the rank of "seducer" and is allowed to post in every section of the forum.

We believe that this is a sensible approach to solving the problems that plague other seduction forums. Also, we are against rampant commercialism, which means that we will not use advertising on this forum, apart from links in signatures. However, everybody is welcome to join us, no matter for whom you work for or associate yourself with. It may be LoveSystems, Real Social Dynamics, PUA Training, BradP, or any other outlet. But be aware that this place is run by some very experienced people, and our bullshit detector works very well.

Lastly, the aim of our site is not to become the biggest seduction-related forum on the Internet, but the best. We invite everyone to join us, no matter at which level he may be. Together, we will achieve what has been sorely missing on the large commercially driven forums on the Internet: to become a true community that will allow people to improve and learn from each other.

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